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In discussing why I decided to leave the LDS church I don’t
want anyone to feel as though I am trying to persuade them to leave as well,
that is not my intention. My real intention is to offer a voice of comfort to
all of those out there who struggle with the same things that I struggled with.
I want people to feel like they have a shoulder to lean on and a place to find
comfort. While I am not at all supportive of the doctrines and teachings of the
LDS church, I still defend them where I feel they should be defended. I still
correct false ideas that I hear thrown around by people attacking the church.
But after all my study, prayers, temple visits, and deep thinking I cannot help
but be more convinced of the deceit that the church cautiously lowers in front of your eyes than of its truthfulness.
Please understand that as you read this it is not personal.
I know where members of the church are coming from. I completely empathize with
people who were raised in the church and indoctrinated their entire lives as I
was. As you read you will often see me say something like the church did this
or did that. Please understand that these are not blanket statements about the
entire church membership but instead referring to the leaders who are high
enough up to affect the entire church. I am very bold with some of my
statements. But, again, please do not take them personal, they are not
challenging you as a person but instead the system of religion I used to
believe in. I make some bold statements, but I do it because it is the best way
I know of to convey my true feelings.
To make a qualifying statement on my own “authority” to talk
about church topics I will refer you to anyone who has been over to my house
and seen my library. While I haven’t read every Mormon book I own I can very confidently say that I understand
and know Mormon history and doctrine as well as, or better than, almost everyone
I know. And no, the spirit doesn’t take away the gems of knowledge when you
leave the church, that’s just a myth too. I have read two or three other articles
written about why the people chose to leave the church. Most of them are
friendly and don’t introduce many doubts, but just a general over view of their
reasoning. It is an innate human desire to find others whom you can connect
with. Being alone in your beliefs can be as wandering through an endless desert
without any water. The questions I ask are rhetorical and not meant for the
reader to answer. Please remember that! These are the genuine questions I had
on my own and why I had them.
Perception
There are many stigmas relating to people who decide to
leave the church. The common ones are the usual “lost the spirit” “stopped
praying” “deceived by Satan” “lazy” “unworthy.” However, I don’t think that any
of those apply to me or most of those I know who have left the church. The idea
that we aren’t happy because we no longer have the spirit is one that most of
us actually find pretty hysterical. I’ve never been so happy in my entire life,
ever. If you know me and my personality,
I am a happy person. I have almost no empathy for those who suffer from
depression because I have never felt it in my life. Instead, sympathy is all I
have to give, and many need it. In the entire time I was a member of the church
and even to this day I can honestly say that I have never read an Anti-Mormon
book. I did read what anti-Mormon things
people on my mission gave me but that was usually things like we aren’t allowed
to ride city busses and Mormons aren’t allowed outside at night. Stuff that
anyone with a brain can see around. So, for me to be convinced of the falseness
of the church by only reading copious amounts of church literature is something
I think is worth noting.
To read the type of statement I am making in this article is
one thing. But to truly listen and try to understand where someone is coming
from is another thing entirely. Alan Alda once said that “you are not truly
listening to someone unless you are willing to change your own personal
opinion.” I felt like this was what I was doing. For years I listened to
outsiders and tried to convince them of their evil ways. When Bruce R. McConkie
first published his book Mormon Doctrine the first presidency made him change
passages about playing cards and the catholic church. When someone asked him
how that made him feel he said that to be a truly mature person means that you
must admit, from time to time, that you are incorrect. I like that idea.
God and Prayer
My search began long ago, a decade before actually deciding
to leave. I remember the week after coming home from my mission I was sitting
on my parent’s blue fabric couch and looking down at the blue carpet (my mom
hated that carpet). As I sat there, I questioned the existence of a god. In all
my life of praying I couldn’t remember a time in my life that a real prayer had
been answered. The LDS church is known as the religion of lost keys. Because
people often loose their keys, they fall behind a bed or in a couch cushion,
and in a frantic attempt to get out of the door they often say a prayer. Then
miraculously they find the keys, which if they would have just kept looking
they would have found them anyways. This kind of prayer I call the “Law of
Large Numbers Prayer.” If you pray for happiness in your life and safety in your
road trip and they come to pass it is almost as though god was watching over
you and answering your prayers. But, sadly, millions are happy in life and safe
on the road. So, my way of thinking was that if you pray for something simple
over and over and it keeps happening you get sucked into believing that it only
happened because you prayed for it.
When I say a real prayer, I mean one where I am asking for
knowledge and truth, not lost keys. I had never heard a voice, I had never seen
a vision, I had fervently prayed my entire life without ever receiving an
answer that was weighty enough to lead me to believe. I thought about god and
prayer as I sat on that comfy, ugly, blue couch. I had just testified for two
years about the truthfulness of something that I had never received a
confirmation about. I was the highest baptizing missionary of my generation
(the group of other missionaries who, on the same day, you arrive to the
mission with). And it has panged me ever since how deceitful I was to everyone
I “converted” and how I led them into a church I didn’t understand myself. I
remember opening my mission call and hoping it would say I was unworthy or some
other reason that I couldn’t go. I wasn’t excited to go to say the least. I
feel like I went on my mission for the same reason that the vast majority of
Mormons go on mission, peer pressure and societal acceptance.
Prayer has always been a tricky thing for me. I used to tell
people on my mission, and in my personal life, that if god has ever answered
your prayer you know he exists. As I went on throughout my life I thought about
the real prayers I had offered but had never received an answer for. I had
prayed for a testimony of the church, Joseph Smith, the current prophet
(whomever it was at the time), tithing, temples and just about anything else
relating to the church. And these were not casual prayers. The idea that the
church was true was something that had been drilled into my head ever since I
was old enough to open my eyes. So to pray about it my whole life and never
receive even a hint of an answer was unsettling to me. It isn’t easy to leave
the only way of life you know behind and venture out into a strange world, but
I felt like I couldn’t lie to myself anymore. Easy prayers receive easy
answers, difficult prayers receive no answers.
But wait I thought, what about all those millions of
professing believers (of any style of faith, not just Christianity) who feel
the same thing I do when they pray to a different god? Why is my god more
special than theirs? Prayer alone slowly began to fade as my primary source of
a testimony. Even though the church said that all I needed was to pray and
listen for the spirit I couldn’t do it again, not after doing on a regular
basis for my entire life without an answer. Listening to the way humans of
other religions talked about feeling the same way that I heard preached over my
pulpit was something that I have always struggled with as well. What makes them
so wrong that if they refuse to join my church they are going to burn in hell
forever without an opportunity of repentance? How are they feeling the spirit
if it is strictly limited to my church? If they don’t feel the spirit in their
church, because it’s only in my church, why do they then still attend their
church? If Christianity is true and god wants to save all of his children why
have less than a third of people alive right now even heard the name Jesus
Christ? If this was the true church and we were all there in the battle in
heaven to cast out the adversary, and we all chose to come here to earth, why
then is it so hard to accept and live in a Christian mindset? Why has the name
of Christ been used to massacre untold millions of people throughout history?
These are genuine questions I had about religion that I could not find
satisfactory answers to. I thought about them all the time, day and night.
This Probationary
Time
It’s the little details that got to me. There were so many
little things that I couldn’t get over. The doubts about prayer have stuck with
me for a long time. But the feelings I had about god were put on a shelf and I
didn’t reflect on them that often. For a while I may have convinced myself that
it was true. But this was only because I wanted it to be true, not because I
had found any divine inspiration or guidance. I don’t remember my exact thought
process while going through the process of questioning what I had been told.
But I do remember one of the large pervading questions I had was about this
earth life and that it is the time when men are supposed to prepare to meet
god. I couldn’t get over the idea that god sent us here without any remembrance
of where we came from or what had happened before we got here. But then he
expected us to find his teachings on earth and follow them to the letter. If we
didn’t we would be cast off forever and ever with our sins.
Why was earth life so short and yet the choices I made,
here, in my veiled and ignorant state, would affect my existence for all
eternity to come. In 900,000,000,000,000,000 years from now I would still be in
the same kingdom I was when I first died and it was all dependent on a few
decisions I made in my mortal probation, in a veiled state, that I couldn’t go
back and fix even if I wanted to. I thought: how is that justice and mercy? But
I wasn’t supposed to be questioning the things of god and so I once again put
my doubts on a shelf and kept living the Mormon way. I wasn’t thinking about
this on a daily basis but I couldn’t get over it.
The more I lived and experienced life I felt that the
decisions I was making were my own, that I wasn’t being influenced by some
unseen being that had been cast out for rebellion. If evil doesn’t exist in
heaven where did Satan come from? In our primordial life we lived with god in
his Celestial kingdom that he had earned through his diligence during his own
probationary estate. And there it was that he and mother gave birth to Lucifer,
the evil one. But who or what was it that persuaded Lucifer, the son of the
morning, to make the choices he made? It was his own consciousness! And I
slowly began to realize that my own consciousness is the only Satan in my life
as well. Nobody was there to tempt Satan and nobody is here to tempt me. To
have faith as a mustard seed means that you have the faith and power to command
angels to appear and minister to you. I was convinced of that at one point
(because that what all the church books I read had said) and thought that it
was a level of faith that I needed to achieve. I now feel like it is a
completely fruitless enterprise.
Joseph Smith Jr.
When I originally read The History of Joseph Smith by his
Mother Lucy Mack Smith, I was amazed at the story about Joseph obtaining the
plates. Here was a young man of 22 years old, carrying a chunk of gold that
weighed no less than 60 pounds. As he came home with the plates, he was chased
through the forest by men trying to steal them. With the 60-pound plates in one
hand he fought off three assailants with the other. What a man! I was
mesmerized.
When I picked up a few books on American history and learned
that many people had seer stones and used them to dig for money it reminded me
of Joseph and his egg shaped seer stone.
And then when I found out about the restoration movements,
I thought about Joseph and the “final” restoration. When I read about the communist
style societies that all the religions of the time had organized I thought
about the law of consecration. People said that they knew the garden
of Eden was in the Midwest. Many people were prophets and received
revelations. Many people started their own churches. And then to see that
Joseph and the Mormons were not the first one’s to introduce any of these ideas
gave me pause. I couldn’t understand how an inspired prophet of god seemed to
be copying so much of the religious beliefs of others.
Why is it that a person would write a book and defend it
until he died if it wasn’t true? I’m not really that convinced that he knew he
was going to die. He said that he went as a lamb to the slaughter, or so the
story goes. But he had expressed similar concerns at other times. I had never
thought before that his going as a lamb to the slaughter meant he was going to
be put on trial and thrown in jail for the rest of his life. If he knew he was
going to die why did he go? He had escaped prison before, why choose to go now?
It seems to me that books that only portray someone as being perfect and never
doing anything wrong ever is not a very honest book, no matter who the person
was. And this is how many of the books of the church portray the prophet Joseph
and his successors. But what happened to honesty and transparency?
If joseph was so persecuted and hated for having claimed to
have seen a vision why isn’t there any mention of the vision anywhere in any
kind of record at all until years after the publishing of the book of Mormon?
Why did he wait so long and give so many different accounts of the first
vision? Why wait to put it in writing until over a decade after it was supposed
to happen. The most glorious and important vision the world has ever received
and nobody even bothered to write it down until after the book of Mormon was in
print and on sale? If he was as persecuted as the church claims he was why was
there not a mention of the first vision anywhere until years after the organization
of the church?
I also found it hard to understand why Joseph had plural
wives eight years before receiving the revelation on polygamy. And why does it
seem so convenient that he received said revelation only after his wife caught
him sleeping with another woman? I think Joseph Smith was brilliant. He was a
genius at what he did. He must have had a charisma second to none. He was
probably a fun person to be around. But he was in no way inspired by anything
from heaven. He was following the ebbs and flows of the religious feelings of
his time, following patterns set down previously by others. Why is it that
everything he says to have been inspired to do was already done by someone else
before him? (Yup including a gold book about the ancient inhabitants of America
that god told him to translate.)
I apologize if this sounds negative but I feel like these
are valid questions.
Church Industry
We all know that the church gives its leading authorities a living
allowance of around $10,000 a month, or $120,000 a year. I’ve never really
been comfortable with this; because, most the men receiving these allowances are
already financially well-to-do, so why should they get so much money from my
church? The thing is that I was employed by the church for years and required
to have a temple recommend as part of my employment status. One of the
interview questions I was asked has stuck with me until today. My boss asked me
if I had a testimony of the truthfulness of the church, and I replied that I had.
He responded by saying good, you’re going to need it.
As I spent time working for the church I learned how vast
and extensive their business matters were. I learned that the church had tens
of billions of dollars just in their stock portfolio alone. The church owns the
largest cattle, corn and wheat farms in the world. They have extensive real
estate holdings (not only chapels and temples, but shopping malls, apartments,
etc..). The church owns radio and broadcast networks and insurance companies. They
own construction companies and printing agencies. And I found out that the
council of the twelve and the first presidency sit as chairmen, CEO’s and
directors of every one of these corporations (most are owned by holding companies).
The church, however, never discloses its finances and they don’t have to
because they are a church and don’t pay taxes. But it must be a pretty nice
paycheck to sit on the board of directors of one of the largest
companies in the world.
Church Sayings and
Trickery
One thing that I am openly opposed to is the way the church
leaders use twisted and mind numbing sayings in order to trick people into
staying in the church. Doubt your doubts, before you doubt your testimony. I
felt like I had legitimate doubts about the church and for them to be brushed
to the side like this was almost insulting. Wasn’t I was supposed to question
things? and that’s how my faith grew. Isn’t it only fair to say that if you
have questions ask them and if we can answer them, we will? Instead the answer
was to ignore doubts and push forward as if none of them are legitimate. The
only people who say bad things about the church are Satan fueled instigators
trying to destroy the works of god. Isn’t it possible that someone in church
leadership, at some time, in some place, got something wrong? So why not
address those faults or problems?
Another of my favorite is trust in the lord means trust in
his timing. Is it really the lords timing to never answer my prayers knowing
that if I don’t get an answer, I’m going to eventually tell people why I think
its fake? Why would he do that? Why not save one of his children by answering
their prayers instead? Is that really how faith works? I felt like I wasn’t
receiving answers but I was being told that it had nothing to do with the lack
of deity’s existence. Instead it was just the laziness and carelessness of the
lord in answering his own children. What is so hard about giving your starving
child a little bread? Isn’t that what he wants to do? Isn’t that his work and
his glory? To me it seemed like the answer is no, it isn’t. Trust in the lord means trust in his timing
means to me that just because you can pray your entire life and never receive
an answer, you still need to obey and do what you’re told, just be obedient. I
saw it as having nothing to do with revealed religion and everything to do with
retaining membership.
This might seem like a hard line to follow and a blatant
disregard of what the saying is supposed to mean, but frankly me dear I don’t
give a damn! I waited 24 years for an answer of such basal knowledge and never
received it. I’m not going to live my entire life subjecting myself to
something that wont even let me know if he is there or not.
What about the idea put forward recently in a general
conference to not believe secular knowledge? Isn’t secular knowledge what
helped many of the church leaders in their private careers?
The problem I see with religion is mainly psychological.
Constant self-evaluation and telling yourself that you have to be better. One
of the very common church sayings is that the lord will never tempt you, or
give you a burden to bear, more than you are capable of withstanding. How
terrible of a thing to say! What if someone actually needs help? Well too bad!
Because you have the capability to do it yourself it is not the church’s
responsibility to help. Am I supposed to tell a person dying of cancer that
“they’ve got this” “just pray and stick in there” “the lord will help you
overcome.” What an insulting argument. How alienated it makes people feel!
Pearl of Great Price
I was, several years ago, reading about the history of Egypt
and the pyramids when low and behold what did I find? It was a section of the
book discussing burial customs of the ancient Egyptians. It had several
pictures of common artifacts that Egyptians would bury with their dead. One of
them looked an awful lot like the Facsimile I had seen so often in the book of
Abraham. It is the second Facsimile and today is well known as a common burial artifact
called a Hypocephalus.
It was a hard blow to me to discover that Joseph Smith
mistranslated nearly everything about it. It did not come from Father Abraham,
but by the style of writing was dated to around 200-300 BC. Thousands of years
after Joseph said it was written by Abraham. They are very common now and you can even see
them in many museums around the world. The other facsimiles are common place as
well. How can an inspired prophet so boldly declare that he had translated
these by the gift and power of god and that they are what he claimed them to
be? It seemed to me that if god told Joseph Smith what to write it would have
at least matched up with all the other translations that are out there. All of
them, by the way, are in accord with each other. The only one not matching the
others translations are those of Mormon church.
Church Leaders are
Not Inspired
Not only had I held callings in elder’s quorum presidencies but
also Bishoprics. I had sat through countless meetings about who to call to this
position and to that. Not once have I ever heard someone say that the spirit
told them to make a certain calling. It was always discussed who would be a
good fit and who wouldn’t. That’s how simple church callings are. I had made
callings myself and had participated in the same experience. I personally made
choices that ended up in the calling of many people to positions in the church.
When I was a child, I was chosen for a brief time to be scout
leader of my troop. I never liked scouts and my parents eventually stopped
making me attend, but that’s another story. I was instructed by my bishop to
pray about who I should have as my counselors. When I went home, I quickly
forgot my instructions and went on about my life. When I arrived at church the
next week my Bishop asked if I had prayed about it and I quickly said yes. Then
I made up two people (there were only like 5 of us anyways) and told them the
names of my two best friends. I had lied and gotten away with it (I would learn
later that it was just as easy to lie in a temple recommend interview). This
man was supposed to be my spiritual leader but he couldn’t see through my lies
in the slightest. Isn’t it interesting that as children we were taught to pray
about who should be our counselors in Boy Scout leadership? An organization not
ran by the church, not religious and who’s CEO is one of the highest paid in
the world. I am so glad the LDS Church is leaving that organization.
While I was in the presidencies and bishoprics I continually
watched as the church was directed in this same manner. Nobody claiming to
receive revelation. Not only that, but when a name was recommended for a
calling the leaders often argued about how qualified they were. The person
originally putting forth the name was basically pulling names out of a hat,
there was no divine direction. I can’t help but think that this style of
leadership goes all the way up the church’s chain of command. I have never seen
any evidence that it doesn’t.
It seems to me like the church bends and changes it’s
beliefs and practices depending on the current political and social atmosphere
(three obvious examples being polygamy, humans with black skin, calling
minority apostles). The excuse of being a living church didn’t give me comfort
when I heard Gordon B. Hinkley tell Larry King that the church no longer taught
that “as man is god once was, and as god is man may become.” What ever happened
to eternal truths that never change? If the god we worship was the same
yesterday, today and forever why do basic and fundamental beliefs often change?
I couldn’t wrap my head around it then and I still can’t today.
Being a “pretender” is something that many people are good
at. I can say this about church members because I was one of them and I could
see everyone else going through many of the same struggles as me. Being a
pretender means to put on a façade, to tell people and show them that you are
doing much better than you actually are. Because of the Book of Mormon teaching
that if you have wealth it is because of righteousness, many people feign wealth
in order to appear more righteous. But, far worse than that, so many of the
people around me seemed to feign happiness.
Some of the most humble, honest, capable and worthy people I
know have never had a significant church calling in their lives. Some of the
most financially successful and immoral men I know were called as bishops and
stake presidents. Anyone who honestly and objectively looks can’t help but
think that people are chosen for callings based on their financial well-being,
and not their spiritual worthiness or mental capacity. Some of the vilest and
most unscrupulous business men I have met were stake presidents, mission
presidents or their counselors. These situations often left me wondering how someone
with the gifts of the spirit could select such men for such important
positions? As I would think about these things, I would often relate my own
experiences that I just listed above. It was confusing to say the least. I
struggled with my testimony for years before leaving the church and often
thought about the men “serving” in the church.
I will give credit in that there are so many callings out
there that there might be a bad egg every now and then. Seeing that the church
has over 3,300 stakes its easy to see someone slipping in there with the
leaders unaware. I will give them that. I had several men as bishops that I
still look up to and admire greatly. But a greater number of them that I don’t
care if I ever see again. And others still I think are amoral men. Is god
directing the whole church or only part of it?
I enjoy reading about western American history. I like to
read trapper journals and exploration journals. Quite often these people came
after the Mormon church had moved to Utah, and, therefore, they would often
comment on the Mormons that they met. They often explained the physical
appearance of the Mormons as extremely depressed and that the women never had a
smile on their faces. In fact, every single book I read about the west, that
mentions seeing Mormons, said that the members were miserable looking (none of
which had anything to do with the church. They mostly just mentioned them in
passing). Not a single story said they looked happy. They always said how sad
and depressed were the appearances of those who belonged to Mormondom.
Nobody liked living
in Utah during the time of Brigham Young, but they couldn’t leave. Brigham
Young taught a doctrine known as Blood Atonement,
and this said that if anyone left the church, or committed a great sin, you
must save their soul by cutting their throat from ear to ear and draining all
of their blood. Many apologists that
I read from the church while I was an active member said that he taught this
doctrine multiple times but never acted on it. So, my question was then why did
he preach it that way? What was the use of saying these things if he wasn’t
intending to use them one day?
I was always aware that the Mountain
Meadows Massacre had taken place and that the church denied any part of it
and still does. That’s fine, if they say Brother Brigham didn’t order it then I
can accept that. But when he is said to have been the one to give orders on several of the largest massacres in
United States history it becomes a little harder to deny. Mormons and Brigham
Young were absolutely responsible for the Timpanogas
Massacre, and the Circleville
Massacre, and the Battle
Creek Massacre, and the entire Black
Hawk War. No wonder Arrington called him the American Moses.
I could go on about my doubts and thoughts about Brigham
Young but I don’t want to be any more long winded than I already have been. The
point I am trying to make is that I couldn’t see any indication of inspiration
or guiding of the spirit in the men I was choosing to follow. For me, this was
one of the much slower realizations that I had. It was one of the last things
that broke the camels back.
Joseph Smith wrote the book of Mormon to make money, not to
control people (just read D&C). Brigham Young was the other way around.
When was the last time you heard a doctrinal based
conference talk? They still give them, but they are the strawman type doctrines
that we hear repeated time and again. God is our father, obedience is key, the
temple gives blessings, the lord died for our sins. But we haven’t had a deep
doctrinal preacher in years. None of the apostles claim to be Special
Witnesses, in the true sense of the word, as they used to. None of the current
apostles will admit to seeing either the father or the son or anything else for
that matter. They won’t admit to seeing or talking with them because they
haven’t done either. If miracles and signs are still existent today, where are
they? Finding my lost keys can’t hold my faith forever.
Patriarchal blessings are absolutely bogus. But I won’t even
get started on them.
Temple Ceremonies
In my search for new books to read one day I saw a book
about Freemasonry. The book was called “Freemasonry;
Rituals, Symbols and History of the Secret Society.” It was written by a
Mason for the public. I had only stopped going to church a month or so before
starting to read the book and my jaw was on the floor through the entire book.
The temple ceremony now made much more sense. The book never once talked about
religion, let alone the Mormon church. But when it described the three degrees
of glory and the progression of telestial, terrestrial and celestial rooms in
their ceremonies I knew I had made the right choice. When I learned that they
held meetings in their temples and that the officiating leader used a stick
with a ball at the end to knock three times to commence meetings and announce
the admission of a new member it made sense now. When I read about how the second-class
members (women) must sit on the left and first-class members (men) sit on the right
it made sense. When I read that they held their meetings outside of the
celestial room, but never inside, it made sense. When I read that they painted
their walls with gods beautiful creations I understood that. When they use a
large altar, similar to the Ark of the Covenant used by Moses, in the middle of
the room it made sense. When I visited the Salt Lake Temple and walked up the
stairs to the next room it wasn’t interesting to me, until I read that the
masons have been doing so symbolically for thousands of years. When the book
said that to be a Mason you must believe in a female deity as a partner to the
male deity I laughed. It was all making more sense now where the temple
ceremony came from. I could go on and list everything the Mason’s do that
Joseph Smith copied, including the twelve oxen at ground level in the temple
under the baptismal font, the garments, the symbols on the garments, the sign
language, and many other items. But this is enough for now.
As a faithful member I attended the temple as most members
do, in their spare time and only when it was convenient. Have you ever stopped
to wonder why it is so hard to get excited about going to the temple? I sure
wondered this for years as I sat in the Celestial room. To give an average of
once every month and a half for a decade means around 100 temple visits. Another
question I often asked myself when I was going through the temple was “what in
the hell am I doing getting dressed up in these robes and doing all these hand
signs and reciting written prayers”? Why is it so bad for other churches to use
written prayers, as Mormons say it is, yet Mormons themselves use them all the
time? Not a single person I have ever talked to in my entire life can tell me
why we do, and what we do, in the temple. Nobody knew in Joseph Smith’s day and
nobody knows now, not even you the reader. A bold statement I know, but if
anyone reading this has an answer to what it all means, I am all ears. What is
it all about?!
One last thing about freemasonry before I leave the topic.
Masons were heavily persecuted in Joseph Smith’s time. They were so hated that
there was even a political party called The Anti Masonic Party.
And where were they formed? You guessed it! Right in Josephs backyard. To think
about how persecuted the Freemasons were in the time and area Joseph Smith grew
up in, it is no wonder that, what people thought of the masons at the time,
resembles the Gadianton Robbers so closely. Joseph needed to sell his book and
so he included only themes that were applicable for his time and place (the
idea that Native Americans were Israelites or the lost 10 tribes was prevalent).
El Libro de Mormon
This was my clincher. It was the cornerstone of the faith.
If it fell all the mighty edifices and beliefs that it held up would fail as
well. The year before I left the church I was frantic. I listened to the Book
of Mormon six times on audiobook and read it cover to cover twice in the
printed version. I couldn’t rationalize it, I couldn’t make sense of it fitting
in with American natives and history. I was at work one night listening to it
once again and I got bored of it so I switched to something else. The book I
switched to was a history of Canada, if I could remember the name I would give
it here. It was written in the early 1900’s and when it got to the chapter of
the native peoples, whom the Canadians call First Nation People, it began to
discuss their history and origin. This was before DNA and other medical
research positively named the Native Americans as descendants from northern
Asians. What the author was describing was the extremely long list of
similarities between the American Natives and the people of Northern Asia.
My ears burned like they hadn’t burned in a long time, I
couldn’t get enough. The author of the book was not trying to combat any of my
religious beliefs, he wasn’t even talking about anything to do with religion. He
was laying out the facts that he had in front of him. Just as I had done in
defending the church. He might not have even known anything about the Mormon
church, because of how long ago his book was written. I listened to the chapter
over and over trying to find a flaw or reason in his history that I shouldn’t
believe him. I listened to the chapter probably 8 times that night and found
nothing that I could contradict him on. Native Americans don’t have facial
hair, neither do the Siberians. Native Americans traveled in small family
groups and used the same type of dwelling
(wigwams and yurts, teepees and chums) as the Siberians. Their skin color was
the same. Their way of life was the same. They were the same people.
The more I thought about this the more I thought about the
book of Mormon and how I couldn’t match it with anything that I saw in America.
The logistics of moving armies of millions of men in Nephite vs Lamanite
battles wasn’t something that the Europeans could even do until the first World
War in 1914 (even though it appears that more people died in the final Book of
Mormon battles than in the first world war {that’s just sarcasm}). The wheel
had not been invented in America when Columbus landed. The wheel is found on
some Mayan toys but was never used for anything else. There were no horses when
Columbus landed and there were no asses, swine, elephants (Mammoths have been
found extensively, but the most recent one is 13,000 years old) or cattle
either. So why are they in the book?
I enjoy history for its own sake and have studied it on many
topics. One of the history topics I like is that of the American west (if you
didn’t know that already). As I read about culture in America I learned from
many sources that no American culture had a complex
written language when Columbus landed. There were cultures that had a
written language but none that progressed beyond hieroglyphics. I thought it
seemed very strange that so many people could not only forget how to write, but
that a written language could even be possible, in such a short period of time.
I couldn’t wrap my head around why everyone in the Book of Mormon seemed to
know how to read
and write and yet when Columbus landed the vast majority of people didn’t
even know it was possible to convers that way. You may have your own feelings
about this and might have tons of information that I don’t. I certainly don’t
have a monopoly on knowledge. But this is the way I see it and the way it comes
across to me.
And it may sound funny to you but the clincher for me in my
denial of the Book of Mormon was that so many pages (647 pages including the
116 Martin Harris lost) could come from such a small book. And half of it was
sealed. If they were really the size
Joseph and others claimed them to be, 8 inches tall by 7 inches wide by 6
inches thick, and a large portion were sealed, how did so many pages appear in
print? Unless Moroni wrote things down using a microscope it simply isn’t
possible. Not to mention the idea that plates of gold, that are as “thin as
common tin,” could sustain engravings on one side, without messing up the other
side. They were just too thin to allow engravings on both sides. Also how did
Moroni, without the use of wagon and ox, carry entire rooms full of gold plates and other
artifacts with him as he wandered the Land Bountiful after the wars of
extermination?
Happiness
Happiness was not something that I had looked for. I thought
I was happy. It had never crossed my mind that there could be another fountain
of joy and happiness in my life other than the church. I had been taught my
entire life that the only way to true happiness was through the spirit of god
and that people who left the church did so because they were deceived by Satan,
or had lost the spirit, or had not kept up their study and prayer. I had been
taught by church leaders that people who leave the church are unhappy and
miserable. Looking back, I can now see how foolish and closed minded I had to
have been to believe such openly blatant and confusing lies.
I didn’t know what happiness was until months after I left
the gospel. I had come home from work one morning (at the time I worked the
night shift) and after waking up around 3 in the afternoon I went outside to
look after my chickens. I stepped out of my door and onto the small concrete
steps leading to my back door. I paused for a long time. After a few minutes of
staring into my backyard I realized I had a smile on my face. It wasn’t a small
smile and I don’t know where it came from. But for the first time in my life I
knew what it was like to be happy. It made me think back and reflect on the
mental slavery I had subjected myself to for my entire life. One of my all-time
favorite quotes comes from Harriet Tubman, the famous Underground Railroad
hero. If you follow me on Instagram you know that I quote it often. She says:
“I freed a thousand slaves. But, I could have freed a thousand more, had they only known they were slaves!”
The gospel does not bring true happiness.
It does contain teachings that make people hopeful and
loving towards each other. It is my opinion that to say by reading an
irrational book and never receiving an answer to prayers is joy and happiness
is to not think for yourself. Once you free yourself from the mental slavery
that held you down life rushes onto you, not like a freight train, but like a
tsunami tearing the train to pieces. Your eyes are opened to the true beauty
and majesty that is this universe. A universe with over 3 trillion mapped
galaxies, not stars but galaxies, each with billions of their own stars and
solar systems. The idea that I am supposed to accept that one anthropomorphic
being knows and controls every singles particle of matter in the universe is
absurd to me. I don’t care how enlightened he is, it isn’t possible.
When someone leaves the church over doctrinal and historical
issues, as I have, it is very difficult to continue in the path of belief.
Belief in an afterlife, belief in revelation, belief in what my concept of the
world had been from the time of birth until the moment I stopped believing, it
all changed. More profoundly than this is my new belief in god. My belief in
god is now more profound and all encompassing than it could have ever possibly
been in the church. My belief now is that he not only does not exist now, but
has never existed ever, save in the minds of men. When men in ancient times
looked up into the sidereal heavens and saw the vast milky way and all the planets
in our solar system that was the limit of their knowledge, and therefore, god
made more sense.
Love and Mercy
Going back to what I said earlier about the reasons people
left the church as being “lazy” or “unworthy” or “lost the spirit” or “didn’t
pray or study enough.” These little catch phrases that Mormons love so much is
something that I now find very a unfortunate teaching. It isn’t true at all.
Why can’t people leave the church and then leave it alone? Many many many many
reasons. Some who have left feel like they had been lied to their entire lives
and others feel like they have been robbed of what little time they have on
this earth. How is it laziness to make the decision to leave everything you’ve
ever known and start something new? Do you think its easy to do that? Or fun? I
didn’t leave because I stopped praying or studying. I left because I finally
had to be honest with myself that when I prayed and studied the hardest in my
life nothing ever changed. God wasn’t there for me when I was making the right
choices and doing what he had told me to do. I feel like so many of my friends
out there can relate to many of my experiences. I only hope that what I have
done was courageous enough to be counted for something.
Leaving the church is one of the hardest decisions people
make in their entire lives. Giving up friends, family and trust is something
that members need to understand takes deep thought and much struggle. So why
make it hard on them? Why do members only want to talk to ex-Mormons to re-convert
them? The people I have talked to clearly don’t have my interests in mind when
they belittle me for leaving. But the church has pushed people to do just that
in order to bolster their own mental reasons why they can’t leave either, it’s
all psychological. I must admit that this is a rare occurrence but to say that
nobody has said anything like this is not true. Because, after all, what if I’m
wrong? What if now I have to live in hell forever? Luckily, judging by the way
life has turned out and the happiness I feel inside I can say that I really
don’t think that will happen.
I feel like I could go on forever about my doubts and I can
list off dozens more with ten times as many pages as I have already filled. I
could literally write volumes about why I believe the Mormon church is false.
After all, I have read scores of volumes of why it is true. But I think it is
not necessary at this point. I even wonder if anyone has made it this far in
such a mad rambling article.
Please remember what I said at the beginning. This is not an
attack on any one individual. My sentiment of resentment is towards an ideology
that holds people bound under a useless system that will benefit no one in the
long run. Don’t think that I don’t understand what people are going through in
the church. I was there. I lived it. I went through it. IT WAS ME! I understand why people don’t
leave. I never understood how someone could fall for such huge lies as those
told by politicians and other religions. But now from the outside looking in I
can’t believe how blind I was to my own brainwashing. I thought that it
couldn’t happen to me. I thought I was the one doing the right thing. Turns out
that I had brainwashed myself and convinced myself, the same way I had frowned
on others for doing. The LDS church is set up and ran in such a way as to convince
people, for their entire lives, of how they are true; just like every other
tribal mindset that we complain about people having.
If you know me I am not a casual observer of anything. If I
am interested in something I learn as much about it as possible, until I lose
interest and move on to the next thing. The world is so much clearer and makes
so much more sense now that I don’t have the cloud of religion in front of my
eyes. I can understand thing profoundly more than I ever could before, even
though I had the spirit to instruct me. And it all makes sense now. The world
makes sense. Everything makes more sense from an outsiders point of view. This
might be hard for some people to hear. I was never, in all my time as a member,
ever able to picture god in his setting. Did he live in a house? Did he eat
meals? Did he really have a beard and dress like a Greek god? I can’t say that
I was ever able to picture any of that. But it is so easy now to look back and
see where we came from (we are not chimps, our family trees separated long
ago). I can’t believe how much clearer that vision of origin is than one of
creation. Because, after all, where did god come from?
It won’t make any sense to some people why I would say
something like that. And I don’t judge them for that. Why not? Because I was
there. I can empathize all day long with you about not believing that. I lived
it for decades without ever considering that it might be true. I am only now
beginning to comprehend the damage I have done to and in this world by trying
to promote religion. In retrospect I blame myself and only myself for not
seeing the error of my ways sooner than I did. Only one party can accept the
blame of self-dilution. I am almost ashamed of myself for taking so long to
leave after I knew it wasn’t true.
Some who read this might accept everything I have said as
true. Some will accept most of it but disregard some. Some will not believe
most of it. And others won’t believe any of it (they are the truly scary ones).
In conclusion I wish to say that I now believe that the Mormon church is false
tenfold more than I ever believed it to be true. The psychological mind fuckery
the religion plays on people, always forcing them to judge themselves and
telling them that they are not worthy enough, not good enough, not perfect as
Christ is. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!! There is a reason that
many of your desires are so hard to control, they are there for a purpose. And
it is not a “god given” purpose. I don’t want to argue with people and will not
respond to any comments about this article unless I feel like they are
genuinely interested in my story. If you have read this long, I applaud you and
thank you. Let’s all be real humans together.